OK, so I’m writing this to try and explain a little bit about motivation. It’s clear to me, that I’m the type of person who needs to have little goals to work towards to get things done. I’ve known that, and understood it, but it’s becoming clearer to me as life moves on.
Well, during January, I challenged myself to write everyday on this blog. It was a challenge, but I loved it. I enjoyed pushing myself, making time for something I wanted to do, and sharing thoughts and discussions with others. So, now 13 days later, and not having written another word, I’m thinking about motivation.
I think it’s worth discussing don’t you? Motivation. What motivates me?
I may now skirt around the topic, which could be called procrastination. I have been focusing my time on other areas of my business and life these last 12 days. I’ve been learning more about LinkedIn this month, with a fantastic programme called Leads and LinkedIn. It’s taking my time, and I’m doing some writing over there which is taking my time.
But that’s just an excuse for not sharing here isn’t it?
My family motivates me. I’ve spent time this month getting swimming galas, and athletics competitions, booked. They’re in the diary, with accomodation secured where needed. We’ve all eaten well, and we’ve had clean clothes every day so far.
I’m working for a number of clients at the moment, who I’m motivated to support, complete tasks, and help them move forward. I’ve been doing marketing, creating content, setting up systems, researching, mentoring, all of which I love doing for myself and others.
But I’m still not close to My Motivation am I? What is it that’s making me get up and get on every day?
I have long term goals, which are broken down into steps I need to take to get there. I’m very motivated by them. I’m very good at picking out other people’s linkages, and helping them with their steps. I see the bigger picture easily, for myself and others.
So, why have I stopped, or not been motivated enough, to do something I love? Writing here, sharing and discussing?
That’s all it is. Writing allows me to explore options, and discuss themes with others. It allows me the freedom to research ideas, and read other people’s work. It’s nothing to do with motivation, it’s purely down to my lack of proper scheduling, to get everything done I want to.
We all do it, don’t we? We think we’ll do something, or we think we’ve created a habit, and don’t write it in our diary any more. And then a few days go by. Then a few more. “I’ll do that later”, becomes the mantra in our head. Later gets busy, or tied up with other important things.
So, this week, for me, whilst I get back on track to write more, (probably not daily, but definitely weekly), I’m going to re write my schedule and ensure I make the time to do the things I love.
Sometimes it’s not the motivation we lack, it’s just our lack of planning. Don’t beat yourself up, (I haven’t). Just get back on track with your tasks and goals. You have the motivation, you just need to be a bit cleverer about your scheduling, that’s all.
What motivates you, and are you much better than me at getting on with everything you want to do? Would love to hear from you below.
What do you start the New Year with? For me buying a new diary is almost cleansing…as a bit of a stationery freak I love the choice and believe me it does take a while to choose the right one, with the right amount of space and also one that I will take pride in so that it isn’t left to the side of the desk unloved.
There’s been a lot of discussion recently about support for women, and mumpreneurs, and what support is needed to help women in business. Having just had 2 weekends of supporting other women in business, I felt I’d share my thoughts, then stand back and listen to the discussion!
Bra Lady team at Conference
Last weekend was fantastic. I held the first Bra Lady Conference. This was a mixture of training and support for the Bra Lady team to help them develop their businesses. The feedback was very positive, with by far the most important part of the session, being, “I really valued being able to meet the other Bra Ladies and spend time getting to know them.”
On Sunday, the group attended the Mumpreneur Conference, and all got a lot out of the event. The motivational speaker Miriam Staley talked about “Belief is Everything”, and “Walk in a positive way”. Just the things the Bra Lady team, a group of newly self-employed women, needed to hear. The group have never run their own businesses before, and need support from each other, and their wider networks to help them through when times are slow, and they lose their self-confidence. The 2 conferences they attended certainly boosted their motivation levels and gave them some tools to help them grow their businesses with a new vigour.
Yesterday I had a stand at the Business and Baby Show, an exhibition designed to support parents who want to start their own business. The seminars were run by fabulously successful business people, and the people who attended the show were serious about starting their own businesses. Some of the ladies I spoke to about becoming a Bra Lady were impressed with the training and ongoing support we offer. But we also discussed that being a Bra Lady may not be right for them at this time.
All this has strengthened my knowledge, that one size of business support does not suit all! Some people need a lot of hand holding to begin with, and if this is provided within a franchise opportunity, this may be right for them. Others will hate being tied to someone else’s support structure as they’ll already have their own support network around them.
When you start a business you need to have the support of those around you in your home life. This much is key to your success. And after that? Well, it’s very much down to what skills and abilities you’re bringing to your business, and those that you need to develop to create the success you want.
- If you need to network to get referrals for your business, you can also use it to get support for your business from other business owners.
- If you need to be constantly reviewed and given actions to complete, then having a coach, or someone acting as a support buddy may work for you. Or being part of a franchise may be the answer, depending how it’s structured
- If you need motivation, then surround yourself with motivational speakers, books & people. Learn from them, but put your actions INTO action
- If you learn by watching, go to seminars that will help you develop new skills
- And don’t be afraid of researching, all the time. If you don’t know what’s out there, you don’t know
- BUT, don’t spend all your time doing these things, as you need to put your learning into practice!
So, all in all, I believe there’s a place for all kinds of support for businesses. Business women, mumpreneurs, dadpreneurs, men in business. We all want and need different things, and support. Sometimes it takes time to work out what type of business and personal support works best for you, and how you need to be supported by your networks, but it’s worth spending time working this out.
Without a strong support network, you will surely fail.
Well, I certainly have! What a busy month we’ve had here, with 25 posts on our theme. Thank you to all those who took part and shared their story, tips, or just simply an insight into what it’s like to be a Mum and run your own business.
I don’t know about you, but I need time to reflect and go back over them all again – I’m sure I can pick up some more tips about juggling, priorities, and keeping focused, even when the going gets tough.
I’m also delighted with all the support for the Business Mums Blog Carnival – a regular monthly roundup of posts, hosted on various Business Mum’s blogs. This month we had an eclectic mix of personal and business stories, but it all tied in very well with our very own theme. I’m exhausted by all the activity we’ve had, but I guess that’s one of the themes that has come through isn’t it? We’re all very busy women, but very determind in our own ways to get what we want for our families and our businesses.
I’ve certainly been motivated by the stories of others, and been humbled by some of the open tales told during the month.
What’s motivated, inspired, touched a nerve with you? I’d like to know. I’d also welcome your feedback on whether we had too many guests this month, or was it great to see so many stories in one place that you could compare, contrast and relate to with your own story?
I’m at the end of the first week of the school holidays – a time of major juggling, scheduling & guilt challenges with the needs of the family and business both needing my attention. Hope you have a great summer being a Mum/parent/partner/carer, and enjoy your life to the full.
Tomorrow – we start our holiday/relaxation month! Couldn’t have timed it better! 🙂
I’m delighted to host this month’s Carnival. An eclectic mix of posts from a wide group of Business Mums across a range of sectors. The only thing we have in common is that we’re Mums, and we run our own business. Some of these are large, some are quite small. It’s my first time hosting the carnival, so I’d welcome your feedback. My main question is “How was it for you?”, and “How can I improve?”, which I guess are key questions in our family and business lives too.
With no theme to the carnival, I think you’ll be delighted, challenged and motivated by the posts that have been entered.
Let’s start with the challenge shall we?
Libby Hill, from SmartTalkers asks us “Are young offenders really born bad?“. Having spent 9 years with The Prince’s Trust I know my answer to this question. But read the text. Is there anything you can do in your area or work to support people (not just young people), who may struggle with life?
Joanne Dewberry who runs Charlie Moos has an interesting post. It’s titled “Coming to a High Street near you“, but challenges us as buyers of goods. Where do you shop & why? Are you prepared to pay for the service you get? I’m very interested in your comments on this one as I work in retail myself!
Some more personal challenges are talked about by Helen Royle. She tells us about her daugther’s first hangover, and how she dealt with it. Whilst Donna Pinnell, Little Lilypad, talks about her SPD (Symphysis pubis dysfunction) and how she’s coping with the pain & joy of growing a baby.
The entry from Become a Mumpreneur is a personal & business challenge. Sometimes we use all sorts of excuses for not doing things don’t we? So they’ve challenged us to think about this. Are you using being a parent as an excuse to stay within your comfort zone? This may be personally, but it may also be professionally. What other excuses do you use? Bet you’ve got some good ones. Please do share them so we can add them to our lists too (so that we can cross them off of course!)
Bronwyn, JupiterJasper, challenges us business owners to target the market for our niche products. Hands up those who’ve answered “Everybody” when asked who your target market is. Yep, quite a few out there! Read this and challenge the way you think about the market you’re targeting.
Starting to move onto Motivated, but still with a foot in Challenge, Ipshita Chatterjee of Minor Edition tells us about a Time Audit. I really like this concept. We’re often challenged as parents and business owners with our time aren’t we? But how better to review our time than thinking of auditing it? Once we’ve done our audit we can then move one can’t we?
When we become pregnant we often wonder how we’re going to cope financially don’t we? Claire Meredith, Zest Payroll, tells us the ins and outs of maternity pay, and how we can benefit, even if we’re self employed, or only worked for a short time. Tie this together with Becky’s, Baby Budgeting, vlog about How to earn money running a franchise and you’ll be starting to get yourself motivated about staying in control during pregnancy and beyond of your finances.
Whether you run a franchise, or decide to set up your own business whilst you’re pregnant, on maternity leave, or just want to, these next 2 entries will be helpful. Helen Lindop, who set up the Business Mums blog carnival, runs Business Plus Baby, helps those of you considering an online business. How do you start to sell things? Helen’s Online Shop guide is a great start to help you understand the pros and cons of each avenue available.
And once we’ve got our online business, what do we need to do? Tell people we exist! Ace Inspire talk about online marketing. If you’re not motivated now to get on with your business & your family life, I don’t know how else to support you!
Maybe just by reading this post of mine. It’s a personal one about Achieving Goals, but I think what we learn personally needs to be put into practice in our business life too. What do you think?
I hope this month’s selection of posts challenges, motivates and delights you. I look forward to hearing of your progress this next month from the articles you’ve found here and beyond. Thanks for reading, and please do leave your comments to help us all learn.
You may also be interested that this month the theme on this blog is all about Business Mums. Lots of lovely Mums in business are sharing their story and/or tips. They’d all love to hear from you too.