Time IS a healer
It’s 2 years ago today that my Mum died of cancer, at the age of 65. It’s been hard carrying on without her support, and I still miss her loads.
But, I’ve found the last few months easier to cope with than all the months before it. It’s not that I miss Mum less. I often find myself thinking, “if only I could ask Mum, she’d know how to do…./what to do about…. this”. I’m just more able to cope. I’ve put things in perspective.
Walking together through life
When someone dies, however close you are to them, and even when you’re expecting it to happen, it’s a shock. You grieve their loss, and for me, I only started ‘getting over it’ properly when I started having Reiki sessions with a spiritual Reiki master. Bernadette helped me to put things in perspective. Yes, I’d lost my Mum, but I still had my own life to lead, my 2 children to bring up, my husband to love, and my Dad and brother to support, plus my business to run.
The first year was tough, but we survived. This second year has been easier, as I’ve been looking forward a lot more. I haven’t been reflecting as much, or thinking, “it’s a shame Mum’s not here”. Because I know she is here. All the time. Whatever your belief system, I think most people believe that those who have died are still with us spiritually. My Reiki master talks about angels, and spirits supporting us, with different ‘people’ caring for us at different times. I feel, that just in life, Mum is looking out for us. She still cares, takes an interest, and is supporting the family in all it does.
We may have other troubles, family crises and difficult times, but Mum will always be with us. During her life she gave me foundations to live my life by. I now know that she doesn’t have to be here physically for me to be able to move forward. It’s taken almost 2 years to understand this. But the family is getting on with our lives. We do feel the most organised we’ve been for a long time. We’re having a really good sort and tidy of the house and garden this weekend, getting our family foundations right to move on.
Yes, I can remember what I was doing exactly at this time 2 years ago. I can remember what it was like being with Mum and Dad when she died just after midday. But her physical death, released her spirit to support us and watch over us in a different way.
She wouldn’t want us to sit around and be mournful today. She’ll be more than happy we’re tidying the garden up, (in the rain!).
This is a day late due to technical issues beyond my control! I can hear Mum laughing now! 😉